HOW TO PRACTICE SELF-LOVE

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You might be going through a rough patch in your life right now because Life always has its tolls and unfortunately we cannot run away from them. Have you ever paused for a minute and thought to yourself, ‘what if I’m giving my all to people and actually not giving myself some time to relax and love myself’.

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Well honey there are times when we get so caught up in a lot of things that eventually leads to mental health breakdowns and we wonder what went wrong. Let me tell you what went went wrong. You focus too much on making other people happy and you forget about yourself and most often than not, the person who’s always there for everyone usually has no one who’s there for them.

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It is hard but I’d like to encourage you to just pause and work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is still standing. Someone once used used an analogy or rather comparison of boarding on a plane and putting on an oxygen mask before helping someone else. So basically this tells us that you need to take care of yourself and make sure that you are 100% intact before you can actually help other people because honey your mental health sanity is very important and crucial.
The sad thing is that people take it lightly until they can no longer handle life anymore.

SELF LOVE SIMPLY ENTAILS THE FOLLOWING

#Be committed to loving yourself
#Be kind to yourself
#Clean up after yourself
#Get rid of toxic people in your life
#Always focus on self improvement
#Never allow anyone to belittle you
#Take a break for the sake of your mental sanity
#Understand that self-love is not being selfish
#Realise your self -worth and value yourself
#Learn to say No
#Attract and desire positive energies/vibes
#Do things to please you
#fall I love with the beauty of nature
#Organise your living space to be conducive
#write yourself cute love letters
#Appreciate your inmost being
#Consider that you are complete and whole

The list goes on and on but the most critical emphasis is that you should put your happiness first and then you’ll be able to love yourself and other people aswell as spread positivity everywhere you go simply because you took the decision to put yourself first.

Much love & blessings

Author: Eve Bodirwa

Xoxoxo

Instagram:@awesomewomenhightea

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CREATE PEACE WITHIN CHAOS

Life can be extremely chaotic to a point where one feels as though they can’t control themselves. Chaos exists in life,generally and just like many other things,chaos is somewhat inevitable. You can find yourself trapped in mud ,out of the blue at that very moment where you thought your life is in order.

What most of us fail to understand is that these things happen to the best people out there,people whom we think have it all together. You need to stop thinking that you are the only person going through a rough patch because let me tell you

something,everyone one in this whole entire world goes through tough times and some people even go through the most of it.

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Now, you need to train yourself to remain calm and pause when you find yourself in the midst of chaos.A lot of people still don’t grasp the concept of taking a break when you feel like you have done the most.

Ever felt like your body and your soul and your whole being just can’t take it anymore?well guess what honey it’s time for you to take a breath and exhale every ounce of anxiety and inhale a whole lot of peace and calmness.

Oh darling if you don’t take a break you will burnout and get to a point where you don’t even understand why you are alive or the purpose of life itself.If you don’t take time to breathe a little you will despise the existence of humanity and on top of that you will end up loosing your sanity.

You can maintain peace within Chaos by following some of these steps which I think are vital and helpful.

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HOW TO MAINTAIN PEACE WITHIN CHAOS

#Step back and stop doing whatever you are busy with and face the situation at hand.

#Now try to ignore all the negativity that exists within the Chaos and focus on what you can do to eliminate those aspects

#Figure out the things that might have led you to be worn out and let them go.Let it go if it drains your energy,stop doing it.

#Get rid of anything that attracts stress and overthinking.Let it go.

#Sit down and relax and actually take a break from everything.Meditate or pray or better still do something that will relax your mind and body such as Yoga ,reading a book,getting a massage probably spend a weekend alone to relax and regain your strength.

Honey remember that anything that isn’t good for your mental health isn’t good for you and the people around you. For the sake of your mental sanity,always try to create and maintain peace within Chaos.

Author:Eve Bodirwa

Xoxoxo…….. Instagram:@awesomewomenhightea

CREATE THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE

I remember from a very young age I’ve always wanted to be lady boss. I’d play office all by myself or sometimes with my little sister and pretend to be this powerful owner of a media company. Well I think the inspiration came from a soapie known as (Generations) we used to watch as a family.

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As a creative child I’ve kind of always known that eventually my life would somehow end up in the creative industry and well that is where it currently is.

The reason why I shared a little bit of my past here is to just highlight the fact that regardless of how people view you, your life will end up the way you view yourself.

Everything we do and who we are is representation of our “inner-self”. Therefore it does not matter what people say about you and who they think you are because you are who you say or think you are and whether people accept it or not let it not bother you. (as long as they don’t pay your bills, why should you care?).

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The most underrated thing in the world is a woman who doesn’t care about other people’s opinions about her. Darling, that is the most powerful woman and people just don’t seem to realise that, instead they’d rather label you as stupid, ignorant, rude, arrogant and the likes.

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Imagine being labelled all of those things simply because you chose to live your best life and chose to not let the society define you and on top of that you create your own rules and walk on your own path and focus on you. I mean if this is not the best definition of an awesome woman then I don’t know what is.

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My main concern on this topic is that you need to create the life that makes your soul happy whether it brings you money or not because, what is the use of having all the money in the world and your soul is not at peace and you are always full of anxiety because you are trying hard to conform and live up to the standards of the society. No it can never be me or you, and the reason being? We are awesome.

Say this with me honey.

“I AM AWESOME.
I AM A WHOLE QUEEN.
I Am A WHOLE LADY BOSS NOTHING LESS BUT MAYBE SOMETHING MORE…
BUT WHAT MORE COULD THERE BE APART FROM JUST A WHOLE AWESOMENESS. ”

Much love and blessings

Author:Eve Bodirwa

Xoxoxo IG:@awesomewomenhightea

HOW TO CREATE A DREAM BOARD

Life is so sweet and what makes it even sweeter is the beauty that is found in “DREAMS”.

Just to clarify what a dream is, let me quickly define it for you in my own words.
A dream is a beautiful thrilling vision that goes on in our thoughts through imagination coupled with a sense of hope and faith and the sub-byproduct of a dream is passion.

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Now we all have dreams even those who haven’t realised their dreams yet. The power of our dreams is in our ability to envision them as though they have come true. Hence we all need to have DREAM BOARD in order to remind ourselves of the things we aspire to achieve. Let’s get to it and create our fabulous dream boards.

#STEP ONE

WHAT YOU WILL NEED

1.IMAGES/PHOTOGRAPHS
2.A BOARD OR A CHART
3.A PAIR OF SCISSORS
4.PAPER/BOARD GLUE
5.COLOURFUL MARKERS

#STEP TWO
When you have gathered of all these items you need to cut out pictures of the things you really like and would love to achieve in your life. For example you can cut out pictures of your favourite car, your dream house, dream office space, dream vacation and just about anything that makes you wanna work hard and ultimately achieve those things.

#STEP THREE
Firstly you need to be careful before you stick the pictures on to the board. I would advice you to play around with them. A little just until you figure out how you are going to place them on the board and when you already.

#STEP FOUR

Paste your pictures on the board, you can even cut out letters to construct words on some parts of your vision board. Now take your markers and write down your favourite inspiration quotes and there you have it, your beautiful Dream board.

Remember that you are not inclined to have one vision board, you can make as many as you want.

Much love and blessings

Author:Eve Bodirwa

Xoxoxo…. Instagram:@awesomewomenhightea

5 TIPS TO HELP YOU QUIT WORRYING

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For  those of you who read the bible, or even if you don’t, there is a particular verse that says “who of you by worrying, can add a single hour to your life?
I would like to encourage  awesome women  to quit worrying because worrying cannot change your situation and it will not get you anywhere but it will only tear you apart inside and make you feel weary, depressed and worthless.

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#1 LET GO OF THINGS THAT ARE BEYOND YOUR CONTROL

Coming to think of it,what is the point of worrying about things that we cannot change. In life, we need to  learn how to let go off of things that we  do not have  power over. Always know that as time goes by, everything will eventually fall into place  given that we keep a positive mindset and mentality.

#2VALUE YOUR EXISTANCE

What I would like for awesome women to know is that, every morning when you wake up, know that’s a blessing on its own and there are people out there who are fighting for their lives, who are in hospitals, on their death beds and they pray everyday that if they could  be given a chance to be out there, they could do so much.
Now you are lucky to be alive why not take advantage of that by simply being positive and optimistic even when the odds are against you.

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#3 DO NOT FOCUS ON ONE THING DARLING

When you are alone, ask yourself, what is it that you live for, because there is so much more to life than worrying. Why should you just  focus on one thing?..why not be flexible and try out new things in life. You cannot really focus on doing one thing, what if it doesnt work out, what if that very thing is the root cause of your worrying.
I feel like we need to explore more and this doesn’t mean that you are diverging or riding on a route that isn’t meant for you.


#4 BROADEN YOUR MINDSET

 We always say that stick to your own lane, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t broaden your mindset. It is very crucial to think outside the box  so that when obstacles come your way, you are strong and wise enough  to tackle that situation.

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#5 GET YOUR “THINGS” TOGETHER

Overall, learn to pull yourself together and go back to the reason why you started whatever it is that you are doing. If you put your “things” in order you will  feel empowered  and when your life is intact, that will keep you motivated to press on and Push  yourself to overcome  obstacles.

Author:Eve Bodirwa

Instagram: @awesomewomenhightea

xoxoxo…

YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE

It can be really difficult to deal with life’s hurdles sometimes. We go through a lot as human beings and worse as women. A lot of people deal with dissapointment so good, that they just move on so quickly after having experienced a  great deal of utter dissapointment and well on the other hand there are those who just cannot move on. 

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Imagine failing at something that you put your heart and soul into, and it just doesn’t workout no matter how hard you try to tackle it from different angles. The most successful people actually live up to this quote that says ” No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up”. Well for some people it might seem like oh well better said than done, because how do I show up to an important meeting when I literally feel so worthless and like I just wanna die you know.

Well honey, honey, not so fast. Do you honestly think that all of these successful awesome women have never faced dissapointment or even had their ideas crashed or undermined by people they thought would be so exhillerated and happy to help them execute those ideas?. Or do you think that they have perfect lives and everything they do just turns into gold and always runs smoothly and there aren’t even any hurdles?.Well you have thought wrong.

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There is no one in this life who doesn’t face difficulties and dissapointments, therefore what you need to do  is  to always go back  to your journal and  reflect on the moment you had that idea and think about the excitement and posive feeling you had. Reflect upon those times where you felt like it’s going to happen and it is possible and nothing will stop you from achieving that goal.

My advice is that you should always find some material such as motivational videos and books that will help you stay in motion and  remain positive about your goals and life in general and most importantly  always remind yourself of this beautiful and powerful words. “I AM NOT A FAILURE”.

Author:Eve Bodirwa

xoxoxo….